Private Play at Momentum Con

When I headed off to the Momentum conference, I had planned to bring along my ropes and toy bag like I normally do. I usually have to pare things down if I am taking a flight somewhere given weight limits. My fetish boots are 9 pounds themselves which is significant for a 50lb checked in bag weight limit. The good news is that I would be driving to the conference.

Play Opportunities

A few days before the conference, I was contacted about playing with someone at the conference with my ropes. I said sure since I knew the person asking and I trusted him. I didn't know the woman well who wanted to be tied. I don't do random scenes in private since I have to protect myself as much as they need to protect themselves. I didn't see them on Saturday much and on Sunday it didn't come together. This is normal. Things happen.

I didn't have any expectations of playing. I never do. It is like flirting. It just happens for me.

I do know that I don't want my play actions to be complicated by things like obligation, schedules,  money or responsibilities at the moment. I have too much of that stuff in my life. I want to have fun like dancing. I also don't expect that stuff to influence whether someone play's with me.

There is one exception at the moment, I would do tying to get a hot picture out of it. No doubt that requires a makeup artist, a creative photographer and some work on my part. It is kinky work in a way.

Butt Plugs

Several of the vendors were selling butt plugs. I learn about things in different level of detail at different points. It just so happens I had arrived at the point where I was learning more about them and recognized that what I saw in front of me was a range of textures. It didn't occur to me at first. I looked at a frosted glass butt plug and thought it just looked different. What is the big deal?

Ten's pic of Crystal Delight Erotic Toy's vendor table

Ten Amorette happened to be with me and she commented on the frosted glass texture is different then smooth glass. This is when I looked and saw not only the shape but the texture is important. There is metal, smooth glass, frosted glass, smooth wood and others. I learned something new. Cool!

She was being her usual bouncy energetic self and was fawning over the plugs. I got my normal wicked playful grin.

I have to mention that she became a friend of mine in a round about way. I knew of her but never really said hello or crossed paths with her. I tend to stay away from people that are often surrounded by other people. I don't like to add to the crowd. It is part of my life experience with models, movie people and other well known people that I hate crowding them. I don't like it myself.

It turned out we had friends in common. WickedBlueGlow and MataLeao are her roomies. MataLeao throws some beautiful rope and I so wish I could do the same one day. Both of them are fantastic people to know in my life. My friendship with Ten Amorette came from that.

Getting back to my evil grin, I do random things for my own reasons. I know some of my reasons and other reasons have to do with stuff that has happened in my life. I decided to buy Ten that glass jeweled butt plug with one catch, she had to use it. I had bought enough stuff in my life in the past that just sat and never got worn or used. It is a sore spot to be around people who have hoarding behaviors.

My reward was the priceless joy in her face. It made me smile from ear to ear. I would be even happier later when she told me she was wearing it. She did in fact do that later and I guessed what it was doing to her which made me even more pleased.

At some point later, I am not sure when, I asked about some rope play. I really didn't want to associate the butt plug purchase with doing some rope play. Money bothers me. I have been around people that use it to play with people like toys when they have outgrown very early on normal toys. Ten said yes and I expected her to work to escape or "eel out".

Some Rope Play

When we did play, I did a chest harness on Ten and tried to lock her arms and wrists off well without risking damage to the wrist joints. The rope work looked pretty good and should keep up and down and side to side movement boxed.

Picture of Ten on Ten's phone by me.

I had her lie on the bed when that was done. We had some fun with her butt plug and the rope. It was hot fun. I took some pictures with her phone which she tweeted later.

I did some more rope work but on her legs. I have legs down pretty good at this point. Tied them up to her chest harness for a sexy hog tie. I got my top cookie by them with that floaty feeling. Sexy woman in ropes. Yay

I knew she would escape. The question is how and how quickly. I asked her to eel out. She get her arms out in no time. I didn't even seem to slow her down. I had to laugh and did. I really need to do more work and getting those hands tied better.

Thanks for the play time Ten!

More Play Time

I am definitely a predatory rope slut. I love to tie. Every now and then I meet someone that makes my heart flutter. When that happens, my emotional walls melt and I try to make new ones. I really don't want to cause hurt or be hurt.

I was talking to a friend of mine SilverDreams and another woman who I knew from twitter. She is a sweetie. I didn't know how sweet.

At some point later, we went off and did some rope play. I did a chest harness. Frog tied her legs with her cute bottom up in the air and tied the sides together so her legs were spread wide. Yep, a very beautiful thing. SilverDreams was being her delightful self. She can be a wicked co-top and was verbally expressing herself well.

I tried some nipple clamps on her but it was way too much. She was too sensitive at that moment, maybe next time.

I went over to my bag and grabbed my Hitachi Wand, plugged it in and had some more fun. The cute sexy rope bottom in ropes in a short time was begging for me to stop. After a while of my sensual fun with some feathers and my fingers, I untied her legs, cuddle some and then untied her more.

At this point I found myself melting in the cuddles and the good talk. It made me happy. Later on we cuddled some more downstairs. "S" is a good soul. I hoped to see her the next day but she had to leave.

I knew that wonderful glowing dazed look in her eyes from the play. I was worried about her dropping hard and was trying to contact her on and off on Sunday. We eventually connected but she wouldn't be coming back to the conference, she had too much going on.

Sunday night I got myself home through crazy weather including hail that covered the interstate. On Monday later I started to drop. I never understand why I can function through work with drop but when I switch off for the day it hits me brutally hard. It seems that on Tuesday my lovely new rope bottom friend and playmate was dropping. I wish I could have given her hugs.

Momentum Con

Three weekends in a row of events, Chicago GRUE, Bound in Boston and now Momentum Con. The thing is that the first two events were kinky educational events with play. Momentum was a conference intended for sharing information. It's stated purpose was "Making Waves in Sexuality, Feminism and Relationships".

What gives? Why did I go? It is hard to explain. It has to do with the cultural bias in the United States with regards to sex. We seem to treat sex workers as lesser individuals. We seem to discourage women from looking attractive to avoid being victimized. In summary, it seems as though if there is sexual aspects, we become less then human. This is just wrong.

My hope was to get a feeling about how the US culture is being moved forward to lessen this problem. I am still processing what I learned but it was a fun time.

The conference was organized by Tess and Diva of TiedUpEvents. They did an amazing job but were extremely busy. I wish I could have spent some down time with them but it didn't exist. I will have to visit them when things are quiet.

I met old friends like @SilverDreams, @_Ten_, @The1Miss_Luna, @Princess_Kali, @CunningMinx and many others. I also met people I had been twittering with online for a while like @Spunquee and fantastic speakers like @ReadAboutSex. It was a blast.

The conference started with a Ice Cream social which was a blast. I couldn't eat the ice cream but there were wonderful chocolates and good people around. They did the opening remarks. There was good discussion about how a university at the last moment canceling a speaker who was requested by the intended audience for a conference about sex! It seems some people in the administration found her involvement in the sex industry a problem. For an open discourse on a subject such as sex, why would a real university do this?

If interested, Charlie Glickman did a post about it.

One of my first sessions was done by SilverDreams on "Traveling the Yellow Brick Road of Kink: How to Avoid The Flying Monkeys Along the Road to Oz". It was a fun class, she did well.

Some presenters didn't arrive so there was some confusion at least on my part about the schedule. I don't quite remember the rest of the sessions I went to and in what order.

I do remember walking into a session I was thinking was about kinky stuff that is what the schedule said. I was pondering the video projection and the seriousness of the presenter. I was expecting a friend to join me shortly and was getting worried with what I was seeing on the screen. Just as she walked in the door, the light bulb went off. The video that just finished was about a date rape. I was signaling my friend to go back out. She is a rape survivor and still triggers on it. I got up and grabbed her leaving the room. I didn't mean to be rude or anything, my personal priorities come first.

I went to another set of sessions and skipped some. I learned a bunch. At some point, some friends and me went off to diner and then came back to watch CineKink. It was a set of short movies. I enjoyed most of them. The second to last one however made me squirm. The first one was that I personally don't ever leave someone in rope bondage and leave. I will fake leaving but I don't leave. Violating that rule made me squirm. Breaking that rule and showing it being broken also made me thing about how it was "okay" if unknowing people did the same. Beyond that, it was good since it showed in a neat parallel way the fantasy one person was thinking about another person's day's activity with the reality. It was very well done.

The vendor's at the conference were also neat. I bought some things. I also spent some significnat time getting trying to understand butt plugs. The light bulb went on about the sensations. They were metal, glass, frosted glass, wood and other textures and shapes presented. It made me smile when I finally understand that aspect. I am still struggling with what does what part but I will learn.

A bunch of people apparently went off to a fun local event, I think it was called the Black and Red ball or something. I didn't attend. I needed to recover and sleep.

I had paid for the hotel till Monday morning so in the morning I didn't bother doing the rush crazy packing and check out while classes were happening. I enjoyed more classes and lunch with friends. I went to one more session in the afternoon.

I had done some play time the day before so I was checking in with one of my play partners worriedly. She wasn't there but seemed alright by text. I was shutting down somewhat so I skipped some sessions but went to a wonderful panel one. The panel was fantastic covering web media and things like the downside of the phrase "sex positive" which doesn't mean "go out and have sex" but "whatever your sexual preference including none is okay".

The closing ceremony was great. It made me smile, laugh and feel good. You can read about it and see it in other blogs such as Diva's.








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Bound in Boston

I kept hearing good things about Bound in Boston organized by RopeRider. The one gotcha is that it is a long drive from Pittsburgh to Boston. I wanted to do check out the educational event at least once.

Because of the drive, the plan was for me to pack the night before, head down to Raven's, sleep overnight at her place, grab Batty and head to Boston. We did exactly that. Showed at the hotel, relaxed and then went to the meet and greet.

The meet and greet was in a hotel room and the place was packed. We said hello to various people we knew and meet some new people. It was a good time. We didn't stay too long. We needed to recharge for the morning after the long drive.

We were staying at the hotel that the event was happening in. We grabbed our toy bags, go down the elevator to the main floor, wander around looking for the event and find out it was one flight up. It was amusing to find later on that if we simply walked past the elevators, we would be at the event.

First Day of Classes

The classes were fun. The first class was done by MataLeao and WickedBlueGlow. I wasn't sure I would be tying but in a short time, I was wrapping beautiful Raven up in rope trying to follow the instructions for the tie.

There were a bunch of other classes that followed suit. At some point, we needed to get lunch and opted out of ordering the lunches. Before the last class before lunch let out, we went down and got lunch in the hotel restaurant. Batty and I have allergies so this was a good move.

We went back and attended more classes. One of them was Tori's stapling class. It made me squirm some but it was a good thing to learn. Another one was Lauren's humiliation class. That one made me think and I needed to ask her a question after it was done. Humiliation play can go badly if you aren't really in touch with the person and have hit some bad trigger point. After talking to her, I decided it would be a while before I did any type of heavy play with humilation. I wasn't comfortable.

At some point, we called it a day and went back to our hotel room to kick back and relax. I wasn't that hungry but we needed to get food. Eventually we got all dressed up and headed out to a party we had been invited to and to look for food.

The Party

Off we went, I had tried to find local stores which we could pick up food that didn't have gluten in it. It didn't work out well. We kept drive closer and closer to the party.

Voila. There was a 7-Eleven store that looked well stock. I stayed in the car waiting in a no parking zone while Batty and Raven went off. They were pretty excited when they came back, apparently the store stocked lots of good gluten free food and other healthy goodies. We were back on track but running late.

I dropped Batty and Raven off at what looked like the entrance and went and parked. As I walked back it seemed to be a maze of interesting looking stairs and apartments. I got a bit confused but found the entrance. My jaw started to drop as soon as I entered the place. It was beautiful with high ceilings, very spacious, wonderful wood flooring and many windows. I was so envious.

Even though we were late, we seemed to be the early birds. We got a tour of the place and relaxed. More people arrived and I was wanting to play.

I started with Batty first and planned to do a somewhat brutal inverted suspension. It was yet another experiment in ropes. The load lines and the ties shifted some and I had to compensate. Eventually I had her down and sexy Batty was fighting rough with me. It gave me great joy to rub hemp rope across her naked body which made her drop.

The place was filling up as I tied up Raven in a hog tie. I really worked to cinch and tie her. When I thought I had her good and tight, I asked her to eel out. It took a few minutes longer then last time for her to get her hands free. She also defeated the chest harness which wasn't locked off in the front. Both were good learning lessons. She eventually worked the legs free too but with much greater difficulty.

I did another hog tie working the knots to be placed out of reach. Trying to keep those arms and wrists from wriggling free. I asked her to eel out and she didn't move. She was enjoying the feeling. My sweet sexy rope bottom. After a while, she started and did as well as before getting out. I have to rethink this.

We hung out for a while. There were other play happening. It was a good mix with a good set of people. We said our good nights, thanked our beautiful hostess and headed out.

Last Day

The last day of classes was weird for me. I couldn't figure out what was happening. I went to classes and didn't do any rope work. I eventually figured out that I must have eaten something a day or so earlier and I was getting weak, chilled and feverish from the allergic reaction.

The last class was done by P, it was an interesting tie around the chest. I liked it and will use it.

We went to the closing part of the event. I didn't win the silent auction for the glass double dildo I bid on. I was also struggling more. At some point, I was pretty stupid and thought I had offended a woman I know.

I needed to get out of there and back to the hotel room to chill. I closed my eyes while my playmates did other things and then we packed up and left for Pittsburgh. We got in around 6AM, dropped Batty off and then I went over to Raven's and slept.

Drop

A day or so later, I sent a private message to the woman apologizing for my behavior. She had no idea what I was talking about which was a relief.

I also started to struggle with drop and I was hiding even more. I could go to work and function but that was about it. By Wednesday I was out of it. Thank goodness since I was leaving on Friday morning for Washington DC.

Chicago GRUE

The 2nd Chicago GRUE would be happening. It was being organized by CherriesJubalie, a rigger and a pro-domme and would be at a playspace that I had never been to but have heard of, the Studio. I also have the impression the Chicago kink scene was something wonderful to explore outside of Shibaricon. On top of those facts, I expected a wonderful set of people -- not sure why but I did.

The thing is that this would be a GRUE after doing 5 or 6 GRUEs in the last two years. I was on the fence about whether to go or not. Should I? My time is limited and I try to restrict myself to 2 events per month.

I also knew someone who I played with was going alone. I wanted her to have fun and she seems to enjoy rope in one of the many "top cookie" giving ways I like.

I finally decided at the last minute to go. Bought 3 tickets, got a hotel room and started working out the logistics of going. It seemed simple. I had some concerns about the hotel (a holiday inn), parking and the travel wear and tear on my playmates. I drag these two poor women around with me and sometimes they look at me with there eyes like "what the hell are you doing to us?"

Well we left late. Mostly my fault but still connected up with the woman we would be meeting. The hotel was a weird but pleasant surprise. It doesn't have a hotel entrance but has a conference center entrance making unloading luggage a pain. We worked it out and went through two sets of elevators to our room. The one sad piece of news is that my one playmate Batty couldn't make it. It would just be myself and Raven.

Meet and Greet

The hotel room I got would be shared between Raven, myself and the another play partner I knew (call her W for now). We spent some time relaxing before getting all clean and sexy. Spent a wonderful time at dinner in the hotel before heading out.

We headed out to the meet and greet at Cherries's and MonkeyFetish's home. I parked in some zoned parking space and asked later if they towed or not. Tickets I can deal with. I buzzed the door and like a total lady I could hear Cherrie's voice asking who it was. I said my name and she responded with style and in seeming recognition. I think she was just being the perfect hostess.

The place was fantastic. I was so envious. It is million times better then my basement apartment which I picked up for the cheap. Yep, I have been looking at nicer places but have to wait a couple of years.

Graydancer, DoNotGoGently and many others were there such as DerekDeSilva. My fan boy mind was in overdrive. Gray, DNG, Derek, Cherrie and MonkeyFetish are all excellent rope tops and kinky good people. I had to keep my giddiness in check.

The night was a fun blur. Good conversations all around. Raven, W and myself headed back to the hotel room. Eventually I went to sleep and slept deeply. I apparently slept through W waking up early, going down and out shopping and coming back. She was a sweet one going off later and getting coffee and non-dairy creamer for myself and ice mocha coffee for Raven.

The GRUE

The GRUE was a blast. The Studio was fantastic. Wow.

To be around good solid people who know themselves was fantastic. Sex positive, open and non-judgmental. I asked Raven if she enjoyed it, she said the conversations were great and commented on several. One was about poly. I said that I wish I had been in that conversation and asked her details. You can't be in two places at the same time.

Raven has been on this kick about sounding and I just find my penis running and hiding. She enjoyed the discussion Cherries did. I don't think my penis did, it kept crawling inside my body twitching. Raven the switch she is, enjoyed tormenting me on the way home when we left Chicago.

I am not sure which set of conversations I enjoyed the most. I just felt like I was on the same wave length. Don't put yourself in a box. Be real with yourself. Don't judge and so on. Oh well, it was good for me and that is all that I care about.

The Play Party

We said our goodbyes at the GRUE. Some of the folks wouldn't be returning to the play party because of another local event. Others were heading off to diner. We headed back to the hotel to relax and getting ready to play. I have no idea if I took a nap or not.

Raven decided she was going to skip the play party. She would order room service and relax. W and I went off to the play party.

When we arrived I was surprised and commented to DoNotGoGently about the small attendance. This was the first GRUE where the playspace wasn't opened to others that didn't attend the GRUE. It made it very relaxed and cozy.There was definitely more connectivity and relaxed comfort in the play space. I was amazed.

We had failed to find a place to get some fast food. It was cool that there were snacks and I could munch on something. After I a while I started setting up on some equipment and helped W unlace her corset. We went and played.

I find that when I play with the same people who enjoy rope, the connection gets deeper. The scene we had was definitely that. I was aware in a small way that other scenes were happening. I saw slices of Graydancer and DoNotGoGently scene. Wasn't sure what was happening since my focus was on my ropes and W in them. Time was stopping for me.

Near the end of the scene when I had her down from being suspended I became aware that Gray's scene was all over the place and getting closer to us. I moved us back some and continue to undo the ropes.

When the ropes were off, we moved off to couches for some aftercare. I needed this aftercare, I was worried that I had overstepped in my scene and was thinking I had lost a play partner. We talked. It was okay and I felt better. W is a good soul and a wonderfully sexy woman. I want her to stay in my life even though I am a kinky sadistic player.

Pancakes

We left, slept, packed up, checked out of the hotel and returned to the Studio for pancakes. It was good. At one point, there was a cuddle pile. Pictures were taken of the cuddle pile, I am still struggling with being out on the internet so I stepped out of the cuddle pile. I wish I could be more out.

We eventually said our goodbyes and headed back to Pittsburgh. The drive was long. I was so happy Raven was with me. I was struggling with drop I think.

Hard Drop

I don't know what was going on. I still don't understand the why. I struggled through Sunday night, Monday and Tuesday. Monday was harshest and most demanding since I had to deal with the first day of the work week.

It seems I had drop going on for the first time for at least two days. It was a mental downer. I was worried about my relationship with my girlfriend and was worried I had lost a friend. It was bad news and I was fumbling with things like forgetting cell phones and other things. I was a mess.

Sucky doubting struggling darkness....

I eventually snapped out of it. I had doubled and triple checked with Raven and W. I had talked to Batty. The sun eventually came out in my mind.

I now can look back and smile with wicked thoughts. It was an amazing good time. Thank you!